Give Yourself A Break

My last post, No Sleep is No Joke, I invited you to join me as I give myself permission to be still and rest well in the new year. While everyone hustles off to the gym, makes ambitious to-do lists, tries to fit in that new hobby, I challenge us to question our motives and rest as hard as we plan to play. This post builds on my invitation and unpacks replicable steps you might take to improve your quality of rest.

“Activity and rest are two vital aspects of life. To find a balance in them is a skill in itself. Wisdom is knowing when to have rest, when to have activity, and how much of each to have. Finding them in each other – activity in rest and rest in activity – is the ultimate freedom.”-Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Science Says, Rest (Take a Break)

Lack of adequate rest can lead to high levels of stress and fatigue. In addition, inflammation rises, mental capacity decreases, immunity drops, and metabolism and mood suffer. The distracted, moody monster we become desperately reaches for sugar and caffeine rather than taking the break required. Sound like 10am or 3pm, anyone?

The Living Experiment, a must-listen podcast, features an episode called “Pause.” In this episode, hosts, Dallas and Pilar, explain how to recognize the body’s signals for when a break is needed. Our bodies respond to circadian rhythms– patterns related to 24-hour, night-and-day cycles and they also respond to ultradian rhythms– patterns that occur many times throughout the day.  The hosts reveal, “the science is clear: taking brief, periodic … breaks improves not just your health and happiness, but also your productivity, creativity, energy and mood.”

Put simply, our bodies and minds require quiet time to repair and re-energize. Stephen Covey, best known for his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, discusses “sharpening the saw” as the last habit, suggesting that a consistent, continuous dedication to self-renewal (i.e. rest, play, exercise, personal exploration) can empower us to maintain sharp mental and physical edge. Covey notes, “…you can renew and better yourself through appropriate rest and relaxation or you can totally burn yourself out by overdoing everything”. (https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits).

So how do we build more rest into our day? And what benefits can we expect if we do invest energy into powering down, chilling out, and most importantly having a little fun?

3 Forms of Rest: Total, Active and Passive

Total rest: Complete, utter, thorough, absolute, out-and-out rest! This form is exactly what it sounds like. It means eliminating everyday stressors (i.e. work, working out, errands) for an entire 24 hours. Periods of total rest are the very foundation of the recovery and repair cycles. There should be one day of total rest built into each week.

Active rest: is a reduction in workload. Active rest may include putting effort towards daily engagements, but at a less intense level. By decreasing our workload intensity, we give our mind and body the chance to re-energize itself so that we are re-focused and recovered when we return to full involvement.

Passive rest: is a short-term break from the work tasks or projects. There are all sorts of ways to get passive rest including: meditation (Headspace –a favorite app!), light reading, listening to music, a short walk (sans technology), restorative yoga, or have a healthy snack with a cup of tea or water.

Plan your rest, just as you would plan any other appointment. Your body and mind will thank you for it and you’ll work, perform and play more efficiently.

Now, Let’s Improve Your Sleep!

Light Exposure: Preparing for good sleep starts first thing in the morning. Bright, natural light exposure, direct to the eyes is needed. This exposure creates balanced rhythms between the hormones that put you to sleep and those which wake you. To follow this rhythm, dim the lights in your home after dark and maybe even get yourself a pair of blue blocking glasses.

Eat!: Start with a protein rich breakfast and continue to meet the nutritional demands of your body throughout each day. Research suggests sleep deprivation interferes with hunger and satiety hormones crucial to regulating appetite. Inadequate and inconsistent food intake can make or break quality of sleep. Getting ample sleep and nourishing thoroughly go hand in hand.

Unplug: Eliminate exposure to all technology for 30-60 minutes before bed. Create headspace to fall asleep more easily with meditation, deep breathing, or light reading (avoid heavy or intense content).

Wind Down Routine: Take a bath, get into pajamas, brush your teeth, read a book and lights out—sound familiar? For some, this was the consistent childhood bedtime routine. Our brain would recognize the habitual series of events and signal that it’s time to rest. We need to borrow this old habit and recreate it as adults, or invent it, if it was never instilled. Going to sleep and waking up at the same time consistently (even on weekends!) will get our brain and body in healthy rhythm.

Magnesium: Essential for more than 300 enzymatic processes in your body, magnesium calms the central nervous system helping to quiet a racing mind and relax muscles. My favorite kind is PurePharma M3.

Sleep Environment: Sleep in a dark, cool room. Being too hot or too cold can disrupt sleep. Conceal light that may beam from your digital devices (i.e. alarm clock, TV) and minimize extra noise with earplugs or a white noise machine. Leave electronics out and save your bedroom for two things. (Hint: one of them is sleep).

Ditch caffeine and alcohol: Research reveals that any significant amount of alcohol or caffeine within a couple hours of going to bed negatively impacts sleep. This results in abnormal sleeping patterns. Being asleep is not the same as being in a deep sleep. Caffeine is expert at interrupting, and alcohol is pro at destroying our quality of sleep. You might ditch caffeine after noon, and experiment with ditching alcohol completely.

Train smarter, not harder: High intensity training, especially in the evening, can interfere with sleep. If you prefer to get in some pre-bedtime movement, try yoga or simple stretching– both can help you unwind and relax into a restful night.  Continuing to think about our health as a bank account, we need to manage withdrawals so we don’t end up bankrupt– overtrained, under recovered and sleep deprived.

Clear the Commotion: Save the intense TV dramas, work emails, heavy reading material, or bone-to-pick for daytime. All of the above stimulate the stress response and make it harder to wind down.

Bottom Line: Adequate rest and sleep are essential to our health. Both improve the quality of our life and allow us to operate at our best. Rest is a skill and an artform. It’s vital to our wellbeing. Give yourself a break!


The Power of Rest, Matthew Edlund, MD





Balancing Your Health Bank Account

Do You Balance Your (Health) Bank Account?

I’ll venture to say that any adult who earns an income is familiar with balancing a bank account. For most of us the goals are simple: Stay within your budget, don’t spend too much in any one area and of course, don’t end up in the red.

When I speak with my clients about their health and wellness, I often liken their overall health to a bank account. Our health is comprised of many components: In addition to our nutrition and wellness, it also includes how we move, think and interact with others. How we live greatly impacts our health.

The positive balance in our ‘health account’ depends on the lifestyle we’ve created for ourselves. ‘Withdrawals’ from our account often look like high stress, inadequate sleep, and inconsistent food and alcohol intake. Deposits are things that make us healthier, such as eating whole foods, moving our bodies, spending time outdoors, and taking time to rest. This concept extends to our spiritual wellness as well. Do our regular behaviors and habits bring us closer to God or further apart? Think of what we can begin incorporating into our life that will help us become the best version of ourselves.

This short list of intentional practices and insights can help ensure your account flourishes. I invite you to consider what you can ‘afford’, where you can cut back on your spending and how you can begin depositing more into your life:

  • Lifters vs. Drainers: Make a list of who in your circle lifts you up and who drains you dry. Do you feel yourself tense up when making plans with a certain friend? Are you spending too much time with those who don’t align with your beliefs and values? Do you leave feeling drained rather than lifted? These things can rob you of energy and peace. Invest in meaningful relationships.

  • Life Enhancing vs. Life Detracting: Identify your daily habits and activities and consider how they are enhancing or detracting from your life. While not showing up to your job may not be the responsible choice, aim to add in a fulfilling activity or practice to your schedule to offset some of life’s stressors. The seemingly small practices can make a huge difference. Consider unplugging from screens an hour before bed, dedicating time to connect with loved ones, or giving thanks before a meal. These easy rituals will pay off in dividends.

  • Gain clarity on your weekly budget: Choose a day of the week--I suggest Sundays--to analyze your budget for the week, month and near future. Take note of the busy weekend next month or the jam-packed work deadlines in the week ahead and strategize your lifestyle--nutrition, rest, movement, prayer--so that you set yourself up for success instead of overwhelm. Go into you day, week, vacation knowing how much you can spend results in less stress, clarity and empowerment.

  • Save up!: If you have a vacation on the horizon, remember that just as you had to save and prepare for a getaway, you’ll need to do the same thing with your health. Sleep more, eat clean before your trip (consider doing a mini reset leading up to and coming back from), so you can enjoy your time away without overdrawing on your account. If your stress is through the roof, you haven’t slept for days, and you’ve indulged more than you wanted to, your spending money is gone before you even arrive! Begin your vacation with an excess to spend instead of falling deeper into the red.

  • Redefine as you go: Don’t be too dogmatic in identifying what qualifies as a withdrawal vs. deposit. This can change depending on the context: Regular wine consumption may be a withdrawal, but enjoying a drink during a date night with your significant other may be a deposit.

  • Decide from a place of empowerment: Whether you’re out to dinner, on vacation, entering a holiday weekend, or trying to decide between taking a rest day or doing an intense workout, take the pressure off of yourself and stop relying on willpower. There is no ‘good’ and ‘bad’. Instead, use the facts to make a confident decision--what is your balance? Do you have enough to stay out late?

  • Hold a higher perspective: While balancing our health account is extremely important, our intentions and actions count for eternity. Kindness, love, forgiveness, generosity, empathy--these are the deposits that resonate in deeper ways that we can’t begin to imagine. Take stock of your heart and choose the footsteps that lead you closer to God and true wellness.

There are so many options, temptations and opportunities to indulge/celebrate/wallow/zone out. Rather than get trapped in the cycle of these options—such as overeat, feel horrible, overeat because you feel horrible—take control of your choices by re-framing them with this concept. Manage withdrawals so we don’t end up bankrupt—overtrained, under recovered and sleep deprived, but rather well rested, energized and aligned with the best we have to offer.